We invited sexual health educators, sex bloggers, and porn geeks to share their thoughts about episode 281, which features the return of La Muxer Diosa with new CrashPad performer Zoie Blackheart. Our performers script their scenes and bring their own sex acts and desires to the set, and in this scenario the two brought a healing ritual, with all the potions and lotions for sensual, sexual magic. This week… CrashPad Episode 281: La Muxer Diosa and Zoie Blackheart.

But first… a moment to swoon over our stars

Moment of appreciation tweet for the gift of Episode 238 on this SuperMoon ? perfect way to start my night. #QPOC love — Megan Ashley

Now this is a whole mood — Carly S. aka Makeupandsin

As someone who does and teaches about Sex Magic, I'm super excited to see a scene involving it. I can't wait to see their process, and just visually how everything will look. — Carly S.

La Muxer Diosa is such a fucking sweet and sensual Goddess… and Zoie adorable, I feel like most of me tweeting this is always just "OMG THEY'RE SO FU*** HOT!" lol.. but also their connection and energy is just, too good…— Megan Ashley

I usually watch & tweet, watch & tweet, but this time I had to stop and watch the entire thing from start to finish before typing anything.

And I cried! That's a first
(while watching porn I mean. I cry all the time haha) — Megan Ashley

QTPOC Sex is Healing

the first thing that struck me and made me emotional was the realization of how little latinx porn I've seen, and how beautiful it is to see that representation <3 — Megan Ashley

Love what Diosa said about creating a space for rituals and celebrating and protecting queer folx, sex workers, sex workers of color, trans women, Black trans women, etc. Magic, sex, pleasure, pain, community, safety. — Nicole G. aka nicoleguappone

This is where I cried.. "Calling abundance and safety for queers"
fuck yes. A beautiful intention. — Megan Ashley

Body Worship…

body worship is a great way to build not only orgasmic energy but lubrication and arousal. However you want to think of it. Orgasms will be more intense and more charged with energy if you take your time and allow it to grow. — Carly S.

Creating magical intentions, and harnessing your orgasms power for magic is a powerful way to involve magic in an aspect of your life that is full of untapped energy. Offering your body as a tribute, is something a lot of Tops as well as deities will appreciate. — Carly S.

Wax Play

To give everyone so more of my favorite web based sex ed comic, check out this piece Wax from Oh Joy Sex Toy! by Niki Smith about wax play. It’s great and has tons of excellent information. — Amanda Hobson

I love the use of wax play here in this episode, especially given how essential candles are to pagan ritual. In Wicca: The Complete Craft, DJ Conway writes…(p. 432)
“Candle Magic Certain types of magic can be accomplished by chanting and burning colored candles. This is a very old magical practice, mentioned in surviving records of ancient Egypt. Candle magic is one of the easiest forms of magic for the apprentice to learn and practice. It requires a minimum of supplies and knowledge. The Witch should have a supply of differ- ent-colored candles on hand at all times, and a basic variety of essential oils, herbs, oil mixtures, non-flammable candleholders, and a knife to carve words into the surface of the candle. To attract things into your life, burn the candles during the waxing moon. To repel” — Amanda Hobson

Brushing prayer beads on someone or using saint candles for wax play can add a ton of authenticity to your scene or ritual. Prayer candles are also great for wax play because they burn at a lower temp then other candles so it won't burn the skin. — Carly S.

Verbalizing Consent

I ALWAYS Need to be reminded to be verbal to my Sir/Domme whoever I'm playing with so I thought that was a very sweet moment- La Muxer Diosa reminding Zoie to use their words "Yes Diosa"
— Megan Ashley

Sexual Magic

Sex magic is also a great guideline for a a BDSM scene because typically one person will take the lead. Using things you have in your house for sensation play pervertables is a great way to add interest to your scene. — Carly S.

It’s important to acknowledge that much of contemporary neo-paganism & witchcraft was adapted, appropriated, & commodified from indigenous cultures. Interested in Pagan movements look at the cultures of your ancestors to draw from. — Amanda Hobson

Sex Magic can be a core element of ritual work, and therefore is such a keen subject for a scene like this. As a practitioner, rituals can occur with a significant amount of preparation and tools or can be spur of the moment and fluid. #Pagan #SexMagic — Amanda Hobson

Try tailoring your offering to the deity you are praying to in your ritual. If it's Dionysus then adding wine would be helpful, if it's Yemaya then something involving water, etc etc. It adds more power to your intention. — Carly S.

On Blood

"Should I keep my tampon in?" SUCH RELATABLE CONTENT
periods- we all know they happen and that sex happens during them (And bleeding during the full moon fuck ya) but just don't see it represented much (and yes sometimes because it's not allowed in porn)— Megan Ashley

Did you know that porn typically can’t show menstrual blood (or any blood) because of the rules of their credit card processing companies? This is nonsense. The taboo around menstrual Blood is cross-cultural and long-standing. — Amanda Hobson

The reviews are out!

My review of CrashPadSeries Episode 281
by Floss

Spells? Foot worship? Candle wax? A paddle? And a dildo? How could I resist that combination? Apart from spells, all those things have featured in my own play more than once. Which meant I was keen to cast my eye of Episode 281 featuring La Muxer Diosa and Zoie Blackheart.

As I have mentioned in previous posts ‘Do Feet Make You Frisky’ and ‘That’s My Kink – Feet’ I am a big fan of incorporating feet into my play and I love seeing this occur between two femme presenting people. I am discovering that the beauty of Queer porn is that my kinks are represented in ways that deviate from the stereotypes they may normally be associated with.

More often than not porn involving foot worship is the domain of exceptionally subby guys, and while there is nothing wrong with that set-up at all, it doesn’t cater to the fact that foot worship can be extremely rewarding no matter your gender.

Despite drawing comparisons to porn I might find somewhere like PornHub for example I tend not to watch a lot of it, and I watch even less kinky porn because I find the reactions they offer pretty unrealistic compared to my own experiences, especially when it comes to receiving pain. I feel like often the videos are made for people who want to see BDSM portrayed in a way that is less reflective of reality than I’d like it to be. What I enjoyed about watching Zoie receive wax play and a spanking with a large paddle was her clear arousal and enjoyment of what was happening. The noises she made were noises I’ve made and caused others to make.

We often talk about consent within the kink scene, and in addition to that we also discuss how it is sexy. One of the things I enjoyed in this episode it the ongoing consent, and the fact that no all requests were given the go ahead. When asked if she could spray floral water and Zoie declined politely it wasn’t the end of the scene, Diosa accepted her reason with good grace and they moved forward working the floral spray around instead of all over Zoie.

Throughout this entire episode there are questions asked and answered to ensure that consent is ongoing within their scene together. I would love more people to see and understand the way consent can and should be used at all times, whether you are in a casual setup or an ongoing dynamic. Consent is sexy and it is crucial if you want to practice BDSM safely.

Being the bottom in either a scene or in an ongoing dynamic doesn’t mean you lose your rights to say no, this is dangerous fallacy that some people like to believe about BDSM and I applaud Crash Pad for showing that bottoms can say no, they can do it politely and that Tops can maintain their control of scene while respecting the bottoms boundaries.

Another thing I have discussed many, many times of FlossDoesLife is how Topping in and of itself during a kinky scene is a turn on. This isn’t something I am used to seeing portrayed in porn. By this I mean someone receiving no genital stimulation but sounding and looking very aroused. Seeing Diosa get turned aroused by giving Zoie an orgasm was incredibly hot. That is what it’s like for when I’m Topping someone, I’m genuinely invested in their pleasure and that is arousing, in reality, isn’t always the person on the receiving end who is moaning and using expletives to express their enjoyment. In the heat of the moment in real life scenes I find that everyone involved is moaning with pleasure and desire.

Often when watching porn I tend to fast forward through anything that isn’t hot action, because the storylines are trite and the acting is ridiculous, you get none of that with CrashPad episodes. While people may be exploring their roles on camera it doesn’t feeling like you are watching two people ‘act’, it’s more like being a voyeur on a genuine scene between to consenting adults. Which is absolutely more enjoyable than the porn I have been watching previously.

— Floss#ProudToBeKinky aka _floss_84

Come back down to earth

"Come back down to earth" said in the ear the end, I'm dead. So sexy. You'll just have to watch to it… — Megan Ashley

Behind the Scenes

Working on set today with CrashPadSeries and the sweetest souls Diosa and Zoie are blessing our set with sexual magic — first CrashPad shoot of the new year! — Jiz Lee

Behind the scenes! Navigating your period during filming seems so difficult–not just because your body might respond to sensation/feel differently than it typically does, but because blood/menstruation in porn is rarely allowed so needs to be covered up! — Nicole G.

Thanks for the love!

Time for some nice CrashPadSeries and chill…— Jawn Travolta aka ThePeggingFish

“You can see a parallel between the types of bodies in porn and the types of bodies in Hollywood.” — BitchMedia

Thanks Cosmopolitan and Elle Chase for recommending CrashPad as a go-to source for queer porn, post-Tumblr.

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday: Scent and skin chemistry, having sex again after a breakup, don’t get back together with your ex and more. — Autostraddle

The Reviews are in!

Check out all my thoughts in one place. — Carly S.

Thank you Diosa and Zoie, and thanks to our panel of sexual health educators and sex bloggers for watching. Want to see see for yourself? Watch here!