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Lyric Explains it All! We’ve launched an ongoing Sex and Relationship Advice column by the one and only Lyric Seal. Comment below or email your questions to listentolyric@gmail.com and they’ll be answered in the next post! Read Lyric’s past post, on Being Vulnerable, Religious Indoctrination, and Respectful Hollering
Dear Lyric,
The other night I had sex with an acquaintance/friend of a friend while almost black out drunk. We’d never met. I wanted it, it was hot and equinoctial and witchy, I was very strongly attracted to them and they to me — I remember that but not much else.
I want to holla back, yet maintain mystery. What do I say, and what’s the best medium for it?
– Anonymous
Okay mysterious witch babe,
At this point you’ve probably already decided how to answer this question for yourself, but for others who want to know for themselves, and for you if you’re still feeling mysterious/cautious/shy, I would say a longform note. That’s right, paper, pen, perhaps even some beautiful or silly illustrations.
While I don’t personally recommend blackout hookups, I don’t judge or shame anything that has felt good and consensual for someone. I think that a letter or a note, left somewhere they will find it, is a great way to say, I’m truly interested in you. Yeah my memory is a little fuzzy, but you made a strong impression and I’m willing to work creatively to be in your arms again, or even just your company. Keep it short, simple, flirty, and beautiful.
If you don’t know where to drop a note, do some research! Text your mutual friend, find out where they work or play without presuming to take up their time, drop the note with seduction and sweet intention, leave a way to contact you or a place to drop a similar note to you in reply, and then be patient! Magic takes time. And sometimes texting and internet messaging is actually more stressful, because we put pressure on ourselves and the other person to respond right away. Or we say, should I text again? Letters are oldschool, but when someone already kinda likes you, they work wonders!
xo Lyric
Related:
- Ask Lyric: On Being Vulnerable, Religious Indoctrination, and Respectful Hollering
- Watch Lyric Seal‘s CrashPad Episodes!
