Mia: How did you enjoy our shoot today?

Shelby: I am so happy. I enjoyed it so much.
How did you enjoy the shoot today?

Mia: I had a really good time.

Shelby: Yeah. Yeah, me too.

Mia: Any difficult moments in the shoot?

Shelby: I think just, getting a little distracted and taking myself out of the moment and not just being present with you, but that’s just my brain being my brain.
What about you?

Mia: Oh, it was a piece of cake for me.

Shelby: Good!

Mia: What are your safer sex practices and why?

Shelby: So, I always get tested before shoots. I like to vet partners and ask, friends who I trust, what their experience was like. Protection, PrEP is really good. I love PrEP. And just making sure consent is involved. Knowing places to touch, not to touch. Things to say, things not to say. I just – I am big on making sure everyone feels comfortable and safe and yummy. Happy! I am very much a bottom, a little impact bottom and pain slut. So, what that looks like in terms of finding a partner who I trust is having a conversation with them before ever meeting up, over the phone, doing a little coffee check-in date just to be like, hey, are you cool? Are you safe?

Mia: Yeah.

Shelby: Getting outsider (from porn) information about the people who play with that person. And safe words, safe signals, safe movements or grunts, asking
Do you like to have a word, or
Do you like to have a red, green, yellow?
Do you like to have, I don’t know, whatever we decide on as a person.

I do have a bunch of bruises. So that’s because I like to get bonked a lot. I never get bonked on the first time we have sex. I never do a closed fist hitting on the first time we have sex. It’s… I have a lot of trauma, and this is kind of a way for me to take power back and be like, oh, this is happening in a fun, yummy way for me. And I just make sure that whoever I’m playing with is trusted and holds my heart safe. And that I would trust with my body. Yeah.

Mia: What’s bonking?

Shelby: So bonking is just what I called impact. Any sort of impact.

Mia: Okay.

Shelby: It’s just a cute way of saying impact.

Mia: Yeah. And what does impact mean?

Shelby: So impact is physical… Okay. There’s going to be different definitions based on every person. For me it’s like physical pressure in the form of either like hand or an implement. I really like implements. They can range from single tail whips to like… sorry. Can I say that? Okay. Single tail whips. So, I have this really cute bat. It’s like this, and it’s pink and it’s got spikes all over it, and that’s like, my favorite.

Mia: A bat?

Shelby: Yeah.
Mia: Okay.
Shelby: Because I’m wild in the head. And it’s just really fun to be like, a little pin cushion, or a little, like…rag doll!

Mia: Fun.

Shelby: Yeah.
Shelby: What are your safer sex practices, and why?

Mia: In terms of testing, I do the standard two week testing. With anybody I film with. I’m going to be honest. I don’t like condoms.

Shelby: Yeah. Yeah. No, I hate them, too.

Mia: As for vetting, I just try to make sure, you know, I mostly go off vibes, but… Yeah, just make sure it’s somebody who is actually in the industry working.

Shelby: Yeah. Yeah.

Mia: Not lying about it.

Shelby: Yeah, totally.

Mia: And if I’m unsure then, I’ll ask somebody, like you said, who I’ve seen has worked with them, yeah.
You ever done porn before?

Shelby: Oh, yeah. That’s how we kind of got to know each other. Right?
Being cool on the internet. Being hot on the internet.

Shelby: Have you ever done porn before?

Mia: Oh, no. It’s my first time.

(laughing)

Mia: No, I’ve been in it for a few years. I love it. I love, first of all, having sex with really hot people.

Shelby: Love.

Mia: It’s my favorite part also is having, you know, control over my own schedule.
Yeah. It’s a big one.

Shelby: And control over your body, too. It’s so nice to finally just be like, “Hi!” Hi. Yeah. Hi. I have control over my body.

Mia: Yeah. It really beats getting squeezed like a lemon at a certain chain restaurant…

Shelby: Hmmm….

Shelby: Or working in a cubicle.
Mia: Yeah.

Mia: If you could be any sex toy, which one would you be?

Shelby: I think I’d be…. Restraints.

Mia: Restraints. Okay. Why?

Shelby: I have felt a lack of control in a lot of areas in my life, and that just kind of brings control in a fun way where people can just exist as themselves authentically.

Shelby: And just lay there and be cute.
If you could be any sex toy, what would you be?

Mia: Oh, that one’s easy. I’ll be a dildo. Yeah, I just. I like to top. I want to be inside.

Shelby: Yeah. Okay, I love that. Yeah. Perfect.
I’m just happy.

Mia: I’m glad we finally got to work together.

Shelby: I know! Thank you so much for inviting me to this!
Like, I’m sorry it didn’t work out. And then I’m so happy it did work out for me. Because I’m selfish.

Mia: This is fun. I had a really good time.

Shelby: Me too!